In the name of love… we have to drive results. ๐ช And we can’t do that with Sugar Coated Conversations. In today’s leadership realm, I see a pressing need to foster an environment of openness and directness, even when it might feel uncomfortable for us and our employees. ๐
We as leaders need to become more comfortable with being uncomfortable. ๐ค And our employees need to realize that if we make them uncomfortable, it might actually be a good thing AND there is a way to still maintain a psychologically safe environment. ๐ง โจ
I see many managers sugar-coating, and it just delays the inevitable – AND can make things worse. ๐ฌ๐ซ
Look, I’m not saying we shouldn’t be polite, but I think sometimes we dial politeness up too much. ๐ We must dial down the traditional confines of politeness for more substantive, courageous conversations – by avoiding Cowardly Conversations. ๐๐
This isn’t about being confrontational, arrogant, or pushy – but rather it’s about embracing a leadership style that prioritizes honesty, empathy, and understanding. ๐ค It has to be done in a healthy way, but at times, might make your employee feel uncomfortable. But this discomfort can be healthy and it can lead to amazing things. ๐ฑ๐ซ
Being direct does not negate the need to be friendly. Quite the contrary, the friendliness here lies in our willingness to support our team members through difficult situations with difficult conversations. ๐ฅ๐ฌ
As leaders, we might consider creating a welcoming atmosphere that encourages dialogue, fosters mutual respect, and nurtures a sense of belonging – but in a productive way, that at times, might be a little uncomfortable. ๐งโโ๏ธ๐ก
In my role as a coach, I’ve witnessed the transformative power of asking the right, but often tough questions. It’s not merely about obtaining information; it’s about sparking introspection, challenging assumptions, and eliciting self-awareness. ๐๐
It’s about exploring, not invading, motivating, not coercing. It’s about understanding, not interrogating, inspiring, not criticizing. ๐ But it takes work, and it takes courage. ๐ผ๐ฆ
As leaders, we can adapt this approach to instigate courageous conversations within our teams. By asking insightful questions, we can unveil hidden thoughts, surface beliefs, feelings, and motivations. ๐ญ๐
We can empower our team members to navigate their journey of growth and development. ๐บ๏ธ๐
In conclusion, as leaders, we need to be brave enough to initiate and engage in courageous conversations. We need to toss aside unnecessary politeness and adopt a style of communication that is direct, friendly, and inviting. We must strive to understand, empathize, and most importantly, ask the right questions. This is the path to fostering a culture of openness, growth, and mutual respect within our teams. ๐๐ณ
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